Well, I have to admit I haven't been doing a good job of this one lately. The worst is when I'm on the subway with my daughter. I hate for strangers to see me cry, but out the tears come. Some of the things I have tried to stop myself are:
- pinch myself
- think about my daughter and how my crying will affect her (will she worry about me, will she think this is the only way to deal with emotions)
- read a book or an article
- think of a cute guy
- think of a joke I've seen on tv
Sometimes I go to a park near my job in the middle of the day and find a bench and just let it go. Its a pretty little park with a playground for kids and a basketball court, but very few people tend to go there and just sit. Looking at the trees and sitting in the sunshine alone remind me of how beautiful life is.
I think crying is a good thing once in a while, but when it becomes an every day uncontrollable thing, then its a problem. I have a problem and I am doing things to deal with it, but crying also keeps me in touch with feelings I need to experience in order to clear away thoughts that are not healthy and to move on.